Sometimes the Most Valuable Thing I Do Is Ask One Good Question and Stay Quiet

Most people believe that decision-making becomes easier with more input.
More context. More options. More opinions.

Clarity comes from subtracting.
From sitting with one honest question and letting it do its work.

It’s about focus.

When someone hears the right question, the real one, they usually don’t answer right away.
They pause.
They breathe.
And then something shifts.

Most of the time, people are already carrying the answer.
It’s just buried under urgency.
Buried under performance.
Buried under the pressure to always move fast.

So I slow things down.
Because stillness invites something forward that noise can’t reach.

A few of the questions that change everything

What’s the decision you’ve been carrying, but not naming?
What would feel like relief, not just a result?
If this choice didn’t have to impress anyone, what would it look like?

These questions reconnect someone to their rhythm.
Their compass.

Silence builds trust

Not all silence is awkward.
Some of it is necessary.

When I stay quiet after a question, it’s not because I don’t care.
It’s because I trust the person in front of me to do the deeper work.
I don’t need to guide them to an answer.
I need to hold the space long enough for that answer to land.

And once it does, you can feel it.
The energy changes.
The decision is clear.
And they’re no longer asking for certainty.

So,

The most powerful shifts occur when you are asked the one question that brings you back to yourself.

You need one clean thought, one quiet moment, one clear decision.

That’s often enough.